By Pavel Becker
People who own their own businesses radiate confidence, wealth, and just can't hide their free spirits. They don't punch a clock and don't answer to anyone but themselves. We see them behind the wheels of their fancy cars and living in those big houses and think: "sure, he can afford those things-he owns his own business" and business must be booming.
We are absolutely comfortable explaining somebody's successes by this "having his own business"-thing, and, yet, the idea of becoming one of this people terrifies us like nothing else.
Think that isn't true? Ask some of your friends to go into business with you as partners-but be prepared to hear all of the excuses why they can't. And be prepared to hear them tell you exactly why your business is going to fall on its face even though they have no experience running a business and probably don't even know anybody who does.
Why do we act this way? What happened in our past that we've become so conditioned to fail? Why is the failure so obvious and understandable for us? When has it become a default outcome of any situation?
There are a couple of aspects to the problem.
Our system of teaching, the Prussian System, trains us-whether we realize it or not-to be good emploees. It gives us the skills and molds our minds to work for someone else!
We are taught throughout school and college that the only option we have to become a valuable member of the society - is to become a good employee, to get a job and to spend more than forty years slaving for somebody else and, hopefully,we willearn a retirement that will allow us to quietly die without disturbing our kids and asking them for money.
It's classic reward-anticipation behavior-like Pavlov's dogs. To advance in life, we are taught that we need to be a good employee and provide hard work for our betters.
When we feel caged in, we've learned to pacify ourselves with the tidbits of praise that our superiors dole out to us. We are trained to ignore our own dignity.
What happened to your childhood dreams of being an astronaut, a fighter pilot, or a deep sea diver? When did you start thinking that being a desk jockey was an acceptable replacement for those dreams?
We forget our dreams because we are repeatedly reminded that they are impractical. How can we make money doing those things? How can we support our families? How can we be productive members of society?
Time passes and without you even noticing you've spent the better part of your life working for someone you don't like, doing something you really couldn't care less about, and hoping for a turn of good fortune in the future. Do you want your kids to end up like that?
It's the sort of behavior we learned from our parents and it's the behavior you'll be passing on to your kids and your grandchildren if you don't find the courage to put a stop to the cycle and turn your future around.
By turning things around I mean becoming your own boss and regaining control of your future!
Scary thought, isn't it? Of course it is but that's only because you've never done anything like that before. You've never thought about becoming a businessperson.
Especially in an Internet based business with all of the rumors and controversy and hearsay swirling around it.
That's where the "Comfort Zone" comes to play.
How do we learn anything?
Repetition, that's the key. When you were young and just learning to write the only way you learned to do so was through doing the same thing over and over again until you became good at it and you didn't even have to think about what you were doing.
The same way you learn to ride a bike, to play tennis, pick up girls and to order food in the restaurant.
That repetition is what makes us become who we become.
If every aspect of your job makes you cringe: going in early, staying late, putting up with bad situations and garbage from your boss and co-workers-you're not alone! You say to yourself that things are only temporary, that'll you find something better, but it never does.
One day you realize that you've become a typical representative of people of your occupation: a guy driving particular car, eating particular food, dressing at a particular store, the guy whose income level is whatever it is, $45,000 a year, plus or minus 10 - 15%.
Repetition teaches us the thoughts and actions that define who we are and separates the aspects of our lives in familiar and unfamiliar.
The former will feel comfortable and friendly, and the latter will cause your brain to give you a burst of adrenalin, letting you know that you are stepping out of your comfort zone.
A minuscule amount of this substance will dictate your actions, the decisions you make and ultimately your destiny!
"It's in the moment of making a decision when the destiny is formed!"-said Tony Robbins.
It is that feeling of discomfort that comes from doing anything new that will keep you from stepping out of your routine and toward the life you really want to live.
Your friends and family will gladly help you with this task!
Your income is an average income of seven of your closest friends. Look around yourself: you don't hang out with anybody making significantly less than you, because you don't quite understand their lifestyle, and you don't hang around people making significantly more than you because you don't have anything in common either.
Ask any of them about starting a new business venture and earning six figures a year and you'll get blank stares, excuses, recipes for failure, and panic. They don't know anything about any of that and can't help you get there either. All you'll hear is that it just won't work, that stuff like that never really happens.
The worst part is you'll take their opinion as fact, more often than not, because it represents the path of least resistance-it's much easier to keep doing what you are doing than to succeed at anything new.
"People are having a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of fear of the unknown they prefer suffering that is familiar. Sound like you? Thich Nhat Hanh wrote those words over a hundred years ago but they could just have easily been written last week, and about you.
So, there you are, after having heard about Global Resorts Network, after having watched numerous testimonials, after having studied everything about this business, you are still sitting there and worrying: "What if I still don't know something, what if there is something I need to find out before I get started, what if, what if, what if"
Here is a story for you.
Before my first Tae Kwon Do tournament fight I went to my instructor, Master Shilkaitis, and told him that though I wanted to compete, but I wasn't sure that I was ready. He told me that I "would never feel one hundred percent ready. It's just a matter of finding the strength and desire to win and overcoming your fear."
In that fight, I took third place by knocking my opponent cold but I was so frightened at the time that I still don't remember it even happening.
I could go on and on with all the explanations and motivational speeches, but you know the concept already: it's a decision that you have to make consciously!
Nothing will change on its own! If you continue doing what you've been doing, you will continue getting the results you've been getting!
Choose to change today!
You'll be nervous in the beginning but over time that nervousness will go away because just as repetition leads us into those comfortable ruts so too can it help us learn new ways of doing things.
You want success, you want money, you want recognition - make a decision!
Next time you hear "Sure, he can afford it, he has his own business!" - it will be about you! - 16003
